FAMILY BUZZ
Fostering Resilience in Ourselves and Our Families
from Parent Connect - March 24, 2025
What is resilience?
Resilience is the ability to cope with, adapt to, and recover from stressful or challenging situations. It involves maintaining emotional and mental well-being in the face of adversity.
How can we help foster resilience in our children and ourselves?
Take good care of yourself and model it for your child.
Eating healthy
Exercise - move your body
Rest
Spiritual practice - praying, worship, meditating, mindfulness, etc
Artistic expression
Spend time in nature
Mental health - seek professional help as needed
Build a strong parent/child bond
Studies show that having at least one strong, stable adult relationship (parent, caregiver, teacher, etc.) is the single most important factor in a child being successful at overcoming hardship. https://developingchild.harvard.edu/resources/inbriefs/inbrief-the-science-of-resilience/
Show affection
Respond consistently to your child’s needs
Maintain a daily routine/ family rituals - regular mealtime routines, bedtime routines
Talk with your child about the challenges and difficult times you may be experiencing with simple, age appropriate language. Because saying “nothing is wrong” can be more stressful than acknowledging the tension.
Cultivate positive social/emotional skills and model them with your child.
Self awareness (What pushes my buttons? What gives me peace?)
Emotional regulation - Use calming techniques, like deep breathing.
Practice gratitude
Develop optimism and hope for the future.
Participate in things that bring you joy. Play together as a family!
Practice self compassion. Be gentle with yourself.
Lean into your social network. Build strong, healthy connections with others.
Family
Friends
Community - neighborhood, faith community, cultural community
Embrace growth and learning
View challenges as opportunities for personal development
Learn from setbacks and adapt your strategies as needed
Seek out new experiences and expand your comfort zone.
Establish a sense of purpose
What gives your life meaning?
Set goals for yourself
Volunteer in your community individually or as a family (clean up at the park, etc)
Resources:
https://www.naeyc.org/resources/blog/families-lay-your-burdens-down
https://www.inclusivechildcare.org/resource-library/document/building-resilience-young-children
ADVENTUROUS PLAY
Parent Connect 2/13/2025
The following information is from a class that the staff took in 2023 from Penn State’s Extension program: "Adventurous Play: The How's & Why's"
What is Adventurous Play?
Risk taking
Trying new things
Pushing the limits
Messy play/art
Sensory play
Heavy lifting/pushing
Spinning, hugging, squeezing, rocking, being upside down, balancing
Using dangerous tools
Being near dangerous elements (water, sticks, rocks, fire)
Heights
Speed
Rough & tumble / Wrestling/ “Big body play”
Playing alone
Touching what’s in a pumpkin is “adventurous play”.
What are the benefits of Adventurous Play?
Problem solving skills
Self confidence
Knowing one's limits - less likely to get hurt
Persistence
Being a good reader
Improved focus
Prepares one to learn how to drive
Physical strength
Having a growth mindset… the power of “yet”. “I can’t do it YET, but I will!”
Self control
Resilience
Social development - teamwork, relationships
Apprehensions/Worries/Barriers to Adventurous Play
Safety - getting hurt
Talk them through it. When a child embraces risk, our first instinct may be to remove them from the situation or warn them to “be careful.” A more meaningful response is to talk them through the risk. This way, we build children’s risk assessment and confidence. Before jumping in, take a moment to observe your child. What are they working on? What are the potential risks they face? Encourage them to think about or remember a goal for their activity (perhaps to reach the top of the play structure or the next branch). Then, invite them to tell you how their brain and their body feel as they work toward it. Siblings, same-aged peers, and friends are also good candidates for talking through risk with children.
Worry about dangerous tools - someone getting hurt
Rough & Tumble/Wrestling/Big Body Play - too rough
What are we doing at WWP to encourage Adventurous Play?
Playground - mud kitchen, downspout, sand play, climber/slides (climbing up slide), rocks, sticks, snow, ice
Gym - tumbling mats, trampoline, climber, hanging bar
Sensory table - water, sand, rice, etc.
We narrate what the kids are doing. Talking about how they’re using their bodies.
Tools - hammering
Messy art - finger paint, shaving cream, etc.
Science exploration & experiments: pumpkin carving, ice, etc.
Sensory play - playdough, glurch, sand, snow
Circle time: dancing, singing, musical instruments, yoga
Cooking projects: tasting new foods
Sledding
Field trips - going to new places, having new experiences
Ideas to try with your family:
Big Art - paint/color large cardboard box
Tools - hammering golf tees into styrofoam or cardboard
Letting them cut using a kid knife
Additional Resources:
Exploring Kindergartens
Minneapolis Public Schools - Free
Here's the link to the Minneapolis Public Schools Website to learn more.
There are options to choose from: your neighborhood community school and magnet schools which focus on various interests or learning styles (ex. language, arts, STEM science technology engineering math, Montessori, World school).
Minneapolis Timeline:
Beginning mid-November: Explore options
Visit the website to learn more
Go tour schools
January 31, 2025: Due date to be included in the first school request lottery.
April 1, 2025: Due date to be included in the second school request lottery.
May 2024: Register at your school
Charter Schools - Free
Charter schools receive government funding but operate independently of the established local public school system.
Here's a link to a directory of charter schools.
Private Christian School Options - Tuition, scholarships available
Hope Academy – 2300 Chicago Ave. S. Minneapolis www.hopeacademympls.org
Minnehaha Academy - 4200 West River Parkway Minneapolis www.minnehahaacademy.net
If you don’t live in Minneapolis, please check your local school district’s website for options and timelines for enrolling.
We are happy to walk alongside you in this transition. Please see Ms. Ann if you need any advice or help making a school request.
Early Childhood Screening - If your child is 3 years or older please make an appointment for a screening with the school district. For Minneapolis: 612-668-3715 screen@mpls.k12.mn.us They will be coming to WWP to do a screening in March - watch for a sign up!
“Social/Emotional Development: Raising Compassionate Kids”
Thoughts from Parent Connect 12/5/2024
From Psychology Today, “Raise Compassionate Children”: The Value of Compassion - Developing compassion starts with the recognition that we are not isolated creatures, but rather individuals who are a part of many groups-communities, races, religions, nationalities, and citizens of planet Earth-that must coexist to survive. Compassion enables us to feel empathy for others and to put others' needs ahead of our own when necessary.
Some thoughts from our discussion:
Social/ Emotional Developmental Milestones:
2-3 year olds are beginning to recognize others’ emotions, show concern for others by trying to comfort or help them.
3-4 year olds can label others’ emotions and show compassion through words or actions.
Children learn by example. Be a compassionate role model and invite your child to be involved: take a meal to someone, donate unused items, help a neighbor clear their sidewalk.
Narrate what you are doing, “My friend is having a hard time, so I’m going to keep her company.” “Your sibling looks upset, let’s see how we can help.”
Help your child learn how to regulate their strong emotions: deep breathing, taking a break, etc.
Make caring for the world, others and justice a focus. Help your child to notice what’s fair and what’s unfair. How can we help to make things more fair?
Surround yourself with a caring, compassionate community - friends, neighbors, faith community.
Resources:
From Harvard “7 Tips For Raising Caring Kids”
13 Ways to Raise Caring and Compassionate Children
Co-Regulating Emotions
Some thoughts and resources from Rachel Chrastil, licensed family educator and WWP parent, who led our Parent Connect group today.
Simple (but not easy!) steps for co-regulating/supporting self-regulation:
Stay Calm and Present: Model calm behavior by staying composed, using a soothing voice, and maintaining a gentle presence to help your toddler feel secure.
Validate Feelings with Simple Language: Acknowledge their emotions (e.g., "I see you're upset") to help them feel understood, and guide them in expressing their feelings.
Observe and Decide How to Respond: Are they calming down, or do they need more support? Based on that, decide how to move forward—whether it’s a calming reminder, offering comfort with a gentle touch, or redirecting their attention.
Co-regulation is not just about helping the child, but also about the parent being mindful of their own emotional state.
Resources:
https://www.zerotothree.org/resource/developing-self-control-from-24-36-months/
https://heartmindonline.org/resources/12-self-regulation-strategies-for-young-children
https://childmind.org/article/what-is-co-regulation/
Scroll down to our article from April 2024 for more ideas.