Manners Matter

AUTHOR: Becky Danielson, M.Ed. is a licensed Parent & Family Educator on staff at The Berry Patch and Whittier Wildflowers Preschool. She contributes monthly to the Family Buzz, highlighting a topic or current trend in parenting. 

Dear Whittier Wildflowers Preschool Families,        

Manners matter. Children begin learning appropriate behaviors and social skills from mom and dad at an early age. Manners are powerful, both good manners and poor manners. Society may focus on the crass and unruly, but respect and polite behavior will always be in style. Truthfully, would you rather hang out with a friend who is polite or one who is rude?

Teaching manners goes far beyond please and thank you. Manners are not lessons a parent can just check off the “To Do List” like shoe tying. It might take a long time to master the skill but once the shoes can be tied, the child is on his way. Manner lessons go on, and on. And sometimes on, and on, and…well you get my drift! Even with teenagers, it’s a continual time of coaching. Here are a few tips to teaching manners.

  • Praise success. A little positive reinforcement can go a long way in strengthening a child’s desire to do well.
  • Verbalize your expectations. “We are having dinner at Grandma’s house tonight. I expect you to sit and the table, eat with a fork, and use a quiet voice.” Children generally desire to live up to Mom and Dad’s expectations.
  • With younger children, focus on one manner at a time. Concentrate on table manners then move to phone etiquette.
  • Give directions in the positive. For example, “Please take your elbows off the table” rather than “Don’t put your elbows on the table.”
  • Be tolerant of lapses but don’t overlook them. Use slip ups as teachable moments.
  • Make it fun! When my boys were little, I would pretend to be the rude friend that came for lunch and broke every rule in the book; elbows on the table, speaking with my mouth full, napkin left on the table, reaching across others for food. The boys would laugh themselves silly. Then we’d talk about what a polite table manners look like as compared to the rude friend.
  • Model kindness and polite behavior in all interactions with others.

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
Proverbs 22:6 ESV

Most sincerely,
Becky Danielson, M.Ed.
Licensed Parent & Family Educator

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National Children’s Dental Health Month


AUTHOR: Becky Danielson, M.Ed. is a licensed Parent & Family Educator on staff at The Berry Patch and Whittier Wildflowers Preschool. She contributes monthly to the Family Buzz, highlighting a topic or current trend in parenting. 

Dear Whittier Wildflowers Preschool Families,

February is National Children’s Dental Health Month. Tooth decay is the most prevalent dental health problem for preschools. Cavities in baby teeth can affect permanent teeth, so it’s best to get a good start with caring for those cute smiles when children are young.

Keeping up on good dental hygiene is important for a number of reasons. The mouth is the first stop in the digestive system. Strong teeth allow for foods to be chewed into digestible pieces. The saliva mixes in and then it’s down to the tummy. When teeth are kept plague free, decay is less likely to occur. Plaque, a sticky, bacteria-filled substance, causes cavities. A bright, shiny smile is the goal!

11 Tips to Help Your Child Develop Good Dental Health Habits

• Use a soft bristled toothbrush. Brush teeth at least two times a day, morning and before bed. Supervise and help your child.

• Use fluoride toothpaste for children over two-years of age with no more than a grain of rice sized amount of paste pressed into the bristles of the brush. (Press it in so the paste isn’t rinsed down the drain.) Encourage children not to swallow the toothpaste.

• Model for your child how to use dental floss.

• Limit sugar consumption. Check labels, as there’s more sugar in our foods than we often realize.

• Water and white milk are the best drink options for children. Juice, sports drinks, lemonade, and pop contain sugar and acid that can harm tooth enamel.

• Raisins, Craisins, gummies, and other sticky treats easily catch between teeth and should be kept to a minimum.

• Have “tooth brush foods” available for snack time: raw carrots, celery, apples, and other healthy snacks with a crunch.

• Get in the habit of a quick “swish and swallow” after meals with water to rinse the mouth after meals and snacks.

• Don’t share eating utensils, cups, or plates. Germs are easily passed along.

• Schedule a check-up with the dentist at 12-18 months and every six months following for a cleaning and exam. Discuss the options with your child’s pediatrician and dentist.

• Let the child choose a fun toothbrush. Having a princess or a super hero help with the brushing is much more exciting.

Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you… 3 John 1:2a

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2016-17 School Calendar

We're excited for the new school year and an up-to-date website to house all the information you'll need throughout the year! Check out the calendar for upcoming events at Whittier Wildflower Preschool. When you click on individual events, you can easily add them to your personal calendar. You can also find the calendar on the homepage for easy access. Happy last couple weeks of summer!

2016 Enrollment Forms

For your convenience we have made the following forms available for you to download.  We are required to have all of these forms on file before your child begins preschool.

Enrollment Form (You can also fill out the online application.) 

Emergency Info Form

Health Care Summary (Requires doctors signature.)

Immunization Record (Requires doctors signature.)

Photo Release Form

Let’s Get Acquainted

Permission Form (Toddler for 2 year olds.)

Permission Form (Preschool for 3 & 4 year olds.)